“Dance moms”

I am not a dance mom although one of my children take dance.

I refuse to be a dance mom.

I do not understand dance moms.

I wonder if dance moms know how they act and sound?

Dance recital was this past Saturday. Hannah had 7 dances. (We skipped the 3 PM show where she would have had 2 dances)

So there we were about 6:30 PM in the dressing room. Mind you this is a high school dressing room with random crap in it…There was a circular garment rack that ALL the girls had either swung from, climbed on, sat on, played on the ENTIRE day. So at 6:30-ish after a long day, lots of costume changes and no real play Hannah was with others swinging on the rack (in the dressing room with 10+ girls and 10 mamas!)…she was in front and then all of the sudden the other girls got off for one reason or another. You can just imagine what came next.  The rack and Hannah came crashing down. On the way down it hit another girl in the back and then landed on Hannah’s foot. The other girl was younger than Hannah and then wet her pants. Screaming was loud and I was shocked, worried, and kinda horrified…

I checked to see if Hannah was OK, cleaned up the mess and then went to check on the other girl and talk with her mom. I found an ice pack for the girl and some Tylenol….Hannah apologized and went to talk with the girl and make sure she was OK. The girl was fine, just scared and embarrassed and had a small bruise. The mom reassured me that she was OK and acknowledged the incident was an accident.  Yet I am still concerned for all…it was my lil girl that caused all this.

And then there was the dance mom…another mom whose child was not involved in the incident…I admit she may have menat well but the tone was not in line with meaning well. She came up to me several times not to check on my daughter but to say things like…

“Ya know she wet her pants and there are not any other tights for her to wear.”

“Yeah she is hurt bad and won’t calm down.”

“You have anything for us to use? Perfume, body spray…she smells like pee.”

Then there was the other girls pointing at Hannah chanting “she did it, she hurt her”

Did anyone else say anything? NO

Did any other parent, parent their child? NO

Did anyone else check on Hannah? NO

Did the parents use the moment to teach the chanters that was rude and disrespectful? NO

Did anyone else refer to the incident as an accident, besides the other mom involved? NO

Was I made to feel like we should hit the road? YES

The children in that dressing room were ages 3-6.

What do parents think parenting is?

Who do they think is responsible for teaching children to be sympathetic, kind, respectful?

Have they ever heard of a teachable moment?

Here is our beautiful dancer….her dances included ballet, tap, pom, hip hop and jazz.






3 Responses to ““Dance moms””

  1. 1 Emily
    June 2, 2009 at 12:05 PM

    you are such a great Mom! REally you are. Anyone that sees a teachable moment…. that is what parenting is.
    Thanks for sharing photos. I wish we had been able to see the show… does sound like a long day!

  2. 2 Amy
    June 3, 2009 at 4:50 PM

    Sorry that happened!! Hannah looks amazing…I can’t wait to see you all this weekend!!

  3. June 6, 2009 at 6:06 PM

    Seven freakin’ dances! That in itself is insane! I would’ve pulled that rack over on purpose just to get a little action going around there!

    Parents amaze me. Everyone loves to parent other people’s children, but no one wants to parent their own children. Isn’t there something in the Bible about removing the log out of your own eye first? Hmmmm…….

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