I’ve never been one who wants kids to grow up too fast. There are stages I miss and some I don’t. But I’ve enjoyed each one and have been excited for the next.
As Mercie has neared the end of each stage there’s been some bitter sweetness but there’s also been some excitement, relief, thankfulness and a cleansing deep breath. I’ve had the privilege to have been at the end of each stage 3 times before. I know what’s on the other side. There’s some experience and knowledge of what to expect and how to deal with it as well as process it.
I have to admit each stage has its beautiful blessings however, I really like the older teen and adult kid stage. I get to enjoy the fruits of all the hard work I did as a mom and all the benefits of how J and I raised them together.
This year I am super excited that we will end our 12 year relationship with middle school. (Only 6 weeks left of it…) I’m not shocked my baby will be in high school soon. I’m excited and wish we were there already. I won’t miss the middle school stage one bit. Frankly, I can’t wait to wipe my hands clean of it. It’s been brutal. To be honest I can’t quickly think of many positives about it…
Soon I will only have 1 school to deal with… hardly any emails, but I stopped reading most of those a long time ago… today I removed myself from many Facebook groups. Even though I’m rarely on Facebook anymore it felt freeing to remove myself from groups that don’t matter or are just frivolous.
When you teach your kids responsibility and that it is on them to do the work and be aware then they step up and manage their school career. Don’t get me wrong I’m not oblivious to what’s going on I’m just not the one reminding them, doing it or hounding them. If they don’t learn to fail I’ve not done my best by them. High school is the perfect time to figure that out. We’re still a soft place for them to land as they learn and adjust. If that shocks you then you don’t have any in college where the consequences are harder, bigger and not as easy to recover.
Besides once you have one in college you realize whatever you thought about high school wasn’t as important or as big as you thought and your kids will think the same too. It’s just a minor stepping stone in life. Just like once they adjusted to high school they learned middle school wasn’t as big of a deal as they once thought.
Better things are always on the horizon. I’m enjoying the older kids phase a lot. There’s more conversations than lectures and discipline. There’s more time hanging out with one another vs staying in their room alone or always with a friend. Sharing a fav show, series, activity or music list is the best.